When you look for tips online, you get a list of things to do on the day of your wedding, but nothing to prepare you beforehand. If you truly want to be mindful at your wedding, you must start a practice in advance.
Get a meditation app like Headspace or start a breathing exercise on your own. Search for resources. This is the basis of being mindful and managing stress and emotions — breathing.
A quick exercise to start you off is counting your breaths. As you inhale, count 1; As you exhale count 1. Repeat until you reach 10.
As you continue this practice, start to sense how you feel and name those emotions. The ultimate goal is to say something like, “I feel stress right now. It will pass.” The breathing will keep you in touch with your body and self.
In order to avoid relying on external satisfaction on your wedding day, find things within yourself which are constant that bring you happiness. On your wedding day you should be happy, not jumping from quick fix to quick fix to avoid discomfort.
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The thing that no one really says much about is that the last few weeks leading up to your wedding will challenge you and your partner. SO MANY last minute fine detail things come up, especially in the wake of COVID-19. You need to accept now that things may change in regards to your wedding plans.
A good practice for this is to think of a material possession or something in your world that you no longer have or that no longer exists. You LOVED that _______. You wish you could have it back. Sit with that feeling and think about the impermanence of things, of plans. Life is change.
You want to be in the right mindset as changes arise, so that you are focused on a solution and not grieving the loss of a plan you made.
Reach out. At The Mindful Wedding®, we focus on organizing your details and analyzing your plans to avoid surprises and to keep you confidently calm. I’m a trained Mindfulness instructor and have over 16 years in the wedding industry. I’m here to help.